During our well-being tutorial, we focused on Attachment figures this week, the second key takeaway of this Pillar 5. Attachment theory focuses on relationships and bonds (particularly long-term) between people, including those between a parent and child and between romantic partners. The quality of our early attachments profoundly influences two things:
• our personality
• Our relationships later in life
Depending on their attachment style, our students are either able to empathize with others, share feelings with other people, show trust, engage in long-term relationships, have high self-esteem, enjoy intimate relationships, seek out support etc., or not.
Since our attachment styles are formed so early, we neither remember much about this stage of development nor do we have control over it. Therefore, our attachment traits are typically subconscious and automatic. Consequently, we might find ourselves repeating the same unhealthy patterns, in our relationships with ourselves and with others, repeatedly.
So, since Awareness is the beginning of change, tonight we asked our girls to take an attachment questionnaire quiz to help them figure out their attachment style.